Sometimes, it seems love is made a paradox, deliberately. There are debates on it everywhere. Some call it difficult, some call it complex and some even call it a madness.
People fear and confuse it a lot.They drive theories on it, write love philosophies and even go to the extent of calling it a “complicated contradiction”.
It is surprising when they call it a ‘subtle’ emotion and do not expect ‘true love’ on the other hand. They agree that ‘lovers are one soul in two bodies’ still they mind and react to their lovers, making it an ego problem. They want and expect to be ‘loved’ but do not give it back. They make ‘love and heart smilies’ but do not say it out loud when required!
I had been in love (if that was love, actually) with a guy online. Many people, in fact all of them, laughed even my beloved ridiculed it, thinking I was stupid. For them, online love is not something serious though everyone agrees that when we are not face-to-face with someone, our ears and feelings are higher.
For instance, an emergency phone call about a dying person is way more painful than seeing them closing eye in front of you (think of people who live at distance). Because this way our emotions are more active. So, we feel more when call or talk to someone online. That is also one of the reasons why people are closer to technology than real-world relationships.
Coming back to the topic, people still laugh out and mock me when hearing I experienced virtual intimacy. They often argue, “no, love online is a fake thing,” “huh, attachment and depression for a virtual relation is a delusion.” And then claim of their “true love” offline. They often argue I was crazy or a fool!
It happens a lot and I am used to it now. But I must explain my “love” definition here. For me, it is as simple as happiness, sadness, excitement is. We confuse it because we are never true to ourselves. We fake ourselves. We hide our real masks to people. Love is not a paradox. Neither it is a contradiction nor a complicated philosophy that none can understand.
What about keeping life and love simple. What about being true to yourself. What about knowing when you are ‘serious’ and when you are ‘just friends’ or just having a ‘crush’. Why making this subtle and the purest of all emotions a mystery. When in heart we all know what we are doing and how we are doing it.
Come on guys, face life, be true to yourselves. If you cannot be true online, you cannot be true offline. If you agree love exists, agree to all its forms too. If you seek for love, be ready for it too!