“If you are irritated by every rub, how will you be polished?” – Rumi
اگر تم ہر رگڑ پر ہی تنگ ہونے لگو گے تو پالش(خوبصورت) کیسے ہو گے؟
میری نانی مرحومہ کہا کرتی تھیں کہ “دھیئے۔۔۔ستے خیراں نے۔۔۔اک در بند تے دوجا کھلدا اے۔۔۔۔(بیٹٰی خیر ہے،ایک دروازہ بند ہوتا ہے تو دوسرا کھل جاتا ہے)”اور یہ بھی مثال اکثر ہی سنایا کرتی تھیں کہ “وٹے نوں کسی نے پوچھیا سی کہ تو انا گول کنج ہویا؟ تے وٹے نے دسیا۔۔۔لتاں کھا کھا کے۔۔۔(پتھر سے کسی نے پوچھا کہ تم اتنے گول کیسے ہوئے تو وہ بولا کہ لوگوں کی ٹھوکریں کھا کھا کر)”۔
Beautifully written, deep thought that prepares us to accept the challenges we come across and face them with courage and strength. Instead of crying and sighing, like most of us do in pain (including myself), one should take it positively and try to “learn” from it.
My first perception about the quote was, “how come Rumi say that? It is not possible? How can a person not cry in pain?” But with time I learnt that Rumi was right. Pain teaches us. I tried extracting lessons with every rub of life. And deliberately told myself that the rub is for my growth.
So, we only need to change our perception and accept and welcome it. The more you are irritated in life, the more you learn (if you are a learner).
In literature, when I first read, “sadder but wiser”. My reaction was different although it still touched my soul. I kept it safe in my mind and tried to apply it during hard times.
Now that, my reaction to seeing things is changed, I can tell you a strange thing….I have started “enjoying” pain and hardships. REALLY. (It only takes acceptance, nothing else matters). For instance, I was born to a well off father. We had car to go anywhere, good food, status, money and all that we needed. But a time came when we lost everything. No money, no car, no good status or other luxuries of life….nothing.
Formerly, I had been travelling in a comfy and cozy car. Traveling was not an issue. We never knew how much fuel it consumed on our frequent visits. How much cost my papa had been using on its repairs etc. But then I had to take bus. I had to keep my mind open to take it on time. (taught me to be punctual), I had to keep record of my expenses of bus travel (it taught me budgeting and saving) and so on. And it was hell difficult for me in the beginning. But the car travel-never taught me paths, ways, signs, signals or marks because i had driver to take me anywhere.I could not move anywhere without the driver before. I did not know ways. I must had to depend upon him. The bus travel, on the other hand, has taught me the real taste and experience of traveling. Now I know all the ways, streets, poles, buildings and means of reaching to a place. I feel more freedom in this life as this life does not bind me to follow blindly a driver for me. And thank nature for it 🙂